Goodbye Timmy, Love you forever, CYA Tashi xxOO

Hey Tim, I love you sooo much and always will. You Taught me so much! Kat   (I'll go get em!)

Timmy, You will be greatly missed! You were always on top of your game. now you're on top of the world. I will always admire your achievements. Love you mate xxOO  Scotty

My Brother, You're dearly missed. You always showed me the brighter side of things. After all your achievements and all you've done it's good to know.... You've finally got your wings, Tim U.

Denise and Girls,  Words cannot describe the loss of Tim - its heartbreaking. The pain you all will be experiencing and the loss of a wonderful son, and a great brother. It affects so many people and as you know I always had a soft spot for your Tim. I can picture Tim standing at the Ultrasound desk waiting for you, always so friendly.

I cannot begin to imagine what you are going through at this time. Next week I will call over as I know you have had a string of visitors.

All my thoughts and prayers are with you   Sue.

Dear Denise,  Ever since Tashi has been with Scott, she has become part of our family and we have come to consider you as part of our family as well.

We have been humbled by the amazing love you and the children share.

The best gift a parent can give is to show love and guidelines, so that each child can follow their passions with joy.

Tim always displayed amazing joy and told me how much he was loving flying. Few people get to experience this joy of following their passion.

We are so saddened by your loss and hope to be able to support you, Tashi and Kat in everyway possible. All our love Col and Stel xxx

Dear Denise, I am writing to tell you that I was absolutely devastated to hear your terrible news. My heart really goes out to you and if I can help in any way please let me know. I can't imagine the pain you are going through. When I was 21, my 22 year old brother was killed in a car accident and I was shattered, so to lose your son would be so much harder. I know the shock is extremely hard to cope with; as is the feeling that it's all a bad dream. I clung to the fact that it had to be a mistake with my brother, even knowing that it wasn't.

You have been through such hard times in recent years that for this to happen is just too hard to comprehend. I know how proud of Tim you are and how much you love him so to say I'm sorry seems totally inadequate.

Remember we all love you and our hearts go out to you; and give your girls a big hug from me as well. Love and a big hug, Carmel.

In Memory of Timothy,    for Denise, Natasha and Kate.

This to me has been the hardest letter  I have had to write. But I am doing it in order to both come to terms with the death of Timothy and to express my thoughts to you of my memories of my time with Tim..

Words can never really say how one really feels, but I know that I have been totally shattered by the news.

Anyway from my very first meeting with Tim I found him very willing to accept me into his life as his Nanny. To mostly accept my authority. He knew his parents were very busy with running their businesses  and they needed extra help to raise the children and give them added love. From that day on the Downs became part of the family. The children came and stayed with us on several occasions and we accepted them with open arms.

Timothy was very strong willed and at times very devilish, but always came back to you with a smile and an apology if it was warranted. He had a very gentle nature and was so protective of his sisters, particularly Kate, even though he could push them to the limits with tormenting them. He would be forever  in the girls bedroom or wherever they were playing and he would run off with something of importance that they were playing with, reducing them to tears. A scuffle would usually break out and then he would return the item and run off to play. I think he just wanted to be involved with them. He loved them dearly and Natasha and Tim were always good mates through thick and thin. Katee as he called her was his little treasure.

With you Denise, Timothy looked up to you for advice and reassurance. He was your firstborn and you relied on him to be that big strong boy that could help you do all the chores around the house when Roger was away working. He was the big strong protective brother who grew up to be the strong man with Character that he was today. I remember when you all packed  up and moved to Queensland, i cried all the way to the airport and all the way home. Timothy cuddled me there and said " Don't worry Julie we will still be seeing you often."   He was a big help. He was such a darling.

When we came to stay with you each time to mind the children, he would be such a good help showing us how things worked  and where to go, he was a big help. We had lots of talks about life in general. He was very knowledgeable.

The hurts that you are all feeling at the moment must be unbearable, and they say that time heals all wounds, maybe but hopefully you will find solace within your family and friends to help you through the thick and thin of this tragedy. You had a wonderful son and that you can be proud of.

I remember a few months back talking with Roger on the phone and he was so proud that Timothy had passed all his exams to become a fully fledged pilot he was nearly in tears telling me.

Move on now and enjoy your precious girls Natasha and Kate. My thoughts are with you always.

Your Friend   Julie.

Dear Denise,  I have been trying for a few days to put my feelings onto paper! I would just like to say Thank you for the times you have sat and talked to me over the past month! I really appreciate the time you spent talking to me when you have lost something immeasurable yourself. Tim was an amazing soul who enlightened the life of everyone he met.

I have never felt more privileged than being included in his life though short that it was. I have not met anyone else who deserves admiration as he did,  who had the tenacity to go after what he wanted with so much gusto as him.

He had the passion to get what he wanted out of life  - something he learnt from the hard times he encountered, and from you. Timmy always spoke very highly of his mummy - voice full of admiration when he spoke of the support he felt from you.

And his love for his little sisters was strong! Even though he didn't always see eye to eye with both of them, he loved and adored and was proud of them both with all of his heart!

I know I am not telling you anything that you don't already know - but I felt the need to write down the special way Timmy affected my life - and the special his memory will always play from now on . Stirring me to be - someone he would hopefully be proud of.

All my love always - Belle

My love to Tash, Kat and Scott too Belle

Hi Denise,  My heart goes out to you, and I  remember how good you were to me after my sort -of partner died, not long after I started at SouthernX

Ciao, Judy.

Dear Denise, Please accept our deepest sympathies for your terrible loss. Words cannot express how much we feel for you and we can only wish you peace in the future.

If there is anything or any way we can help  -  please let us know. We will be thinking of you with all our heart.

Sue Davies and all at the Australian Institute of Ultrasound.

Dear Denise,  What can I say, words seem so inadequate - at least in my hands.  We are all so distraught for you and can only send you our thoughts and best wishes at such a distressing time. How quickly and how terribly our lives can change.

My sincere condolences to you      Yours Jane

Dear Mrs. Down, Natasha and Katerina,   I was friends with Tim throughout  school, closer in early high school but we would always say hello and chat in passing in the later years.

Mrs. Down I met you at Tim's birthday party in year 10. I remember when Tim was going through some tough times during school and then I remember when I saw him last (around the middle of last year, out at 'the Zoo' seeing Michaela play). It was wonderful to catch up and hear how happy Tim was, especially with his flying and just to hear him sounding so positive and confident.

I was devastated to hear that Tim was the copilot in the plane crash up North. It's such a sad thing to happen and I can't begin to imagine your pain.

At the moment I am out in central Queensland doing a four week teaching prac. and am unable to attend the service being held at St Paul's however my family is going. My brother is in the same year as Kat and Mum remembers Tim. I just wanted to let you know how very sorry I am for your loss.           Kind Regards,           Carolyn Bolton

Dear Dorothy and Ross,  I write to you on behalf of all our Islington Fellowship ladies and indeed as we gathered in the Church this morning everyone's love and prayers went out to you and your family especially Denise at this tragic time of immense loss and grief.  We are all overwhelmed at the sadness of it all.  May our loving heavenly father wrap you round with his mantle of love and strength for the days ahead.

Our love to you all from your friends at the Fellowship and the Congregation of Islington.      Jan K

Dear Denise and Family,  Please accept my sincere sympathy on the event of last weekend.

While I never have been involved in such a tragedy i can only try to understand the trauma you must be experiencing and attempt to provide some support.

I did not know Tim well apart from his school days at St Paul's but was aware of the marvelous achievements he attained at school and obviously in later life.

Lucy is totally distraught but has been able to talk it through.

Yours sincerely and from Lucy and Tom

Keith Buhr.

Dear Denise,  There are no words I can write to make this time any less upsetting for you and I don't begin to imagine how you must be feeling having lost your son.

I just wanted to write to not only pass on my deepest sympathy but to say how much of a privilege it has been to have known Tim and been part of his life.

When I met Tim at All Sports back in 2001, my world lit up. Tim was wonderful and amazing. He made me laugh and taught me to always look at the positive things in the world. He taught me so much and hopefully I taught him a few things along the ways as well.

I realized that Tim was the way he was because of his upbringing - the way in which he would put others before himself and would do anything for a friend in need. These were qualities that you instilled in him and you should be so very proud.

I have so many fond memories of Tim that I will treasure so dearly. His bike ride for CanTeen to Sydney - and the fact that he knocked himself out by running into a parked car on Valentine's Day; the AFL matches we attended; the bike rides and runs we took together; the friends we laughed with and the list goes on.

Tim's favourite saying to me when times got tough was that "Everything happens for a reason". I have applied that saying to my life and although at times I just can't see why  there could be a reason for something  happening, I know someday it will become clear.

Even though Tim and I weren't going to be life-long partners. I count the time we were together as one of the most special times I've had in my life. He taught me what it was like to be with someone, respect someone else and how to treat the one you love. I know that we both hurt each other which was never our intention but we resolved that and built up a great friendship. We learnt that we might not be together but we were just great mates through everything. I always knew i could call him up and tell him about anything that was happening and he would always be there for me. That was just the type of person he was - always there for others.

I was so proud (no doubt like you) when I heard about the success his flying was bringing him. It was always his passion and I remember the way he talked about it constantly when he was deciding whether to leave Uni or not. He was filled with such excitement when he talked about flying.

It broke my heart when I heard of the accident and that Tim had been involved. I had talked to Tim around 2 weeks ago, just when he was about to come down for the Triathlon and i could tell he was so excited about life. Tim and I were unable to catch up last weekend when he was down and I know can never change anything, but I wish I had made the time. I will always regret the decision we made to just make sure to catch up next time he was down this way.

Denise, this letter is to thank you for everything you did for Tim and the influence that you were in his life. I loved a fantastic guy and you are to be honoured for raising such a beautiful young man. Tim's short life has touched so many people as no doubt you are realizing at this moment with many people being affected by the news of his death. Tim means so much to me and I will always remember him. He holds a special place in my heart.

Please let me know if there is anything that I can assist you with in the coming weeks.

My thought and prayers are with you and your family,

Yours sincerely   Natalie Stay.

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